You love your fiance, but you don't have to love being kept awake at night by an unsound sleeper. After you notice that your fiance doesn't sleep at night, perhaps you also notice your finance's red eyes and blank stares that seem to be signs that they're becoming a vampire. As long as your fiance doesn't have skin that sparkles in the sunlight, they may not be a full-fledged vampire yet. These tips can help you deal with that in-between state that's better known as insomnia. 

Be Supportive

Remember that your fiance probably doesn't want to be a vampire-in-training. Insomnia is never chosen! Be sure to express your sympathy and understanding for the condition. Also, while your fiance will want to see a doctor for possible medical causes for the problem, you also may want to talk about these possible solutions: 

  • Melatonin - The latest research suggests that taking melatonin can help people sleep better at night. 
  • Exercise - If your finance isn't currently active, you may opt to suggest that the two of you start taking walks together or play a sport. Exercise has been shown to help cure insomnia for some people. 
  • Lavender - Prepare a romantic bubble bath for your fiance with lavender oil. You may also want to burn lavender-scented candles near bedtime. Lavender can help both the body and the mind to feel more relaxed, and that can help both of you sleep better. That's a win-win situation.

Discuss Sleeping Arrangements

It's a good idea to go into a marriage knowing what to expect. If you are going to be unable to sleep in the same bed as someone who is twisting and turning, you may opt to discuss sleeping arrangements. Every couple is different, and every relationship is unique. There is no one right way to sleep as a loving couple. Make the choice that will help you both feel close and connected while also allowing both of you to get an optimal amount of sleep.

Finally, keep in mind that it's important to ensure that you are both as set up for marital success as you can be. In addition to being proactive in loving the vampire in your life, it's a good idea to enroll in marriage preparation courses or workshops to make sure that you are doing all you can to ensure that your relationship grows and thrives within your upcoming marriage. To learn more, visit Meiers Gary J Hammond/Meiers J A & Associates Ltd.