You're best friend has just announced her engagement, and there's even better news: you've been chosen to be the maid of honor. What does this mean for you? For starters, it means that you are going to have to step up your game and make sure that everything is going as planned. More importantly, it is up to you not to fall into one of these common maid of honor pitfalls.

Mistake #1: Overriding the bride's leadership.

It is easy to see how having a bit of control could lead you to stray from the bride's specific instructions. You must always remember that this is the bride's affair, not yours. Ultimately it is her desires that are most important. It is not up to you to have final say in the wedding shower guest list or anything else.

Still, it is up to you to make sure that everything is moving on schedule. Ensure that other bridesmaids are on time for appointments and fittings.

Mistake #2: Complaining about the dress or hairstyle.

The bride has final say on everything when it comes to how you look on the day you walk down the aisle. You always have the right to back down from your position; however, you should do so graciously. The dress, shoes and hairstyle the bride chooses are all important to her vision for the big day.

Mistake #3: You aren't paying attention to the bride.

Weddings can be a bit self-serving, but the event is all about watching these two people who you (presumably) care a lot about. This is going to be a special time for the bride, and it is important that you pay close attention to her feelings. Compliment her gown, her taste in venue (and bridal shops) and the way her hair looks.

Mistake #4: Don't embarrass the bride.

It is never a good idea to embarrass the bride as part of your toast or any other wedding festivity. This can only lead to discomfort on a day when the bride and groom should only be celebrating. This day is all about the bride – make sure she knows you are on her side. Light teasing is fine, but you should know how much your friend can actually tolerate.

It is not hard to act as maid of honor in a positive way as long as you are willing to make an effort. Your friend obviously chose you for the job for a good reason.